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Five of Wands — suit of Wands, original illustration from the MyMysticDay tarot deck
Element
Fire
Arcana
Minor · Wands
Attribution
Saturn in Leo
Feeling shows as
Action and pursuit
Stage
The break

Tarot as feelings

Five of Wands
as feelings

What they feel is tangled up with competition, and the friction is part of the attraction.

Why

The Five of Wands is wanting that arrives with conflict attached. It is a fire card, so what it reports is what they want and are moving toward rather than the whole of what they feel.

Upright and reversed

What it is like to hold this feeling.

A reversal is not the opposite of the upright card. It blocks it, delays it, turns it inward or takes it too far, and which of those depends on the kind of card it is.

Upright

The Five of Wands is wanting that arrives with conflict attached. Sometimes that is literal — someone else in the picture, a rivalry they are aware of — and sometimes it is temperamental: a person who engages through argument and mistakes heat for closeness. The feeling is real and it is not peaceful. What the card describes accurately is a connection where everything is contested, nothing is settled, and the energy involved is being read by at least one party as chemistry.

Reversed

Reversed, the fighting has either stopped or gone underground. Conflict avoided rather than resolved, or a person who has withdrawn from the contest and let the feeling go with it.

Reversed in the middle of a suit, the feeling turns inward. What the upright describes as happening between two people becomes something happening privately — unspoken, unadmitted, and frequently invisible from the other side.

Why the suit decides the answer

Fire does not feel the way the other three do.

The same rank in two suits describes two genuinely different states. This is the largest single fact about any card in a feelings position — larger than the picture on it.

What it carries

Fire does not feel so much as want. A Wands card in a feelings position is describing appetite, momentum and the pull toward — the part of caring that makes somebody act rather than the part that makes them tender.

How you would notice

You will know a Wands feeling by movement. It turns up, it initiates, it makes plans. What it is markedly worse at is sitting still with you when nothing is happening.

Where it misleads

Fire mistakes intensity for depth, and it cools without meaning anything by it. A Wands feeling that has gone quiet has usually not turned into a decision; it has simply stopped burning at that particular spot.

Where the feeling is in its arc

The break.

At a Five the shape has proved too small and something has given. This is the disruption every suit meets in the middle, and no feeling gets past its Four without one.

Nothing here is resolved and nothing here is stable. A Five is the moment of the break rather than anything on either side of it.

Saturn in Leo, the first decan. Saturn is what colours the feeling and Leo is the temperature it runs at, which is why this card cannot mean quite what the ones either side of it mean. The two elements are the same, so nothing here is moderated: this is fire undiluted, at its most characteristic and its least balanced.

The same card, four situations

It does not mean the same thing for an ex as it does for a stranger.

Each reading below is built from two things that differ card to card: what the element does to a feeling, and how far along that feeling is.

Someone you have just met

For something that has only just started, Fire is the most flattering and least reliable of the four. The heat is genuine and it has had nothing to prove itself against. A number this late in a suit is doing something odd at the start of a connection: it describes a feeling further along than the relationship is, which is worth noticing.

A relationship you are already in

Inside an established relationship, Wands is asking about desire rather than security. It reports whether somebody still moves toward you, which is a different question from whether they intend to stay. Inside something already established, nothing here is resolved and nothing here is stable. A Five is the moment of the break rather than anything on either side of it.

Someone who ended it, or who you ended it with

For a connection that has ended, Fire is the suit most likely to return and least likely to have thought about it. Wands reappear because the pull did, not because anything was resolved. This early in the suit the feeling has not finished moving, which is why cards like this one appear so often for endings that did not feel finished.

A feeling neither of you has said out loud

When nothing has been said, a Wands card is usually the easiest of the four to read from outside, because Fire is bad at concealment. If the feeling is there, somebody is already doing something about it. Applied to something unspoken, at a Five the shape has proved too small and something has given. This is the disruption every suit meets in the middle, and no feeling gets past its Four without one.

The part most readings skip

What this card cannot tell you.

A feelings position is the one place a reader most wants to be told what they were hoping for, which is exactly why it is the easiest to misread.

  • A card describes a quality of feeling. It does not identify a person, confirm that they are thinking about you at this moment, or guarantee what they will do next — and any reading that offers those things is selling certainty the deck does not contain.
  • Feelings positions are the ones readers most want a particular answer from, which is exactly why they are the easiest to misread. If a card seems to confirm precisely what you hoped, that is the moment to check it against what has actually happened.
  • One card is one input. A feeling that contradicts everything a person has done for six months is a card that needs the rest of the spread, not a card that has revealed a secret.

Keep going

A feeling is one position in a spread.

The full meaning of Five of Wands — upright, reversed, love, career, money and the symbolism the painting carries — is on its own page. If you have not drawn a card yet, the reading below deals a real one.

Clear answers

Frequently asked questions

What does Five of Wands mean as feelings?
What they feel is tangled up with competition, and the friction is part of the attraction. The Five of Wands is wanting that arrives with conflict attached. It is a fire card, so what it reports is what they want and are moving toward rather than the whole of what they feel.
Is Five of Wands a positive card for feelings?
It is neither good news nor bad news on its own. Fire mistakes intensity for depth, and it cools without meaning anything by it. A Wands feeling that has gone quiet has usually not turned into a decision; it has simply stopped burning at that particular spot. What the card actually says is this: what they feel is tangled up with competition, and the friction is part of the attraction. Whether that is welcome depends entirely on what you were hoping for, and the card is indifferent to that.
What does Five of Wands reversed mean as feelings?
Reversed, the fighting has either stopped or gone underground. Conflict avoided rather than resolved, or a person who has withdrawn from the contest and let the feeling go with it. Reversed in the middle of a suit, the feeling turns inward. What the upright describes as happening between two people becomes something happening privately — unspoken, unadmitted, and frequently invisible from the other side.
What does Five of Wands mean as how an ex feels about you?
For a connection that has ended, Fire is the suit most likely to return and least likely to have thought about it. Wands reappear because the pull did, not because anything was resolved. This early in the suit the feeling has not finished moving, which is why cards like this one appear so often for endings that did not feel finished.
Does Five of Wands mean they will act on it?
Fire acts before it understands, so a Wands feeling usually produces a move — and the move can arrive before the person has worked out what they want from it. In the middle of the suit the situation is still moving, which means the answer today is a poor guide to the answer in a month.